Puts things in perspective for me. Yeah, we’ve had some rough patches dealing with autism over the years plus extra family challenges such as a husband in Iraq and now a cop (Serenity Now!), but this? Having all 6 kids on the spectrum? What a woman.
Autism x 6: Family’s kids all have the disorder
We’ve had a pretty OK week. Things (I hope) are winding down for the end of the school year. Only a week and a half left! Lots of visits from new families to my school plus last minute meetings with out-going families. I officially let them know that I cannot keep a full-time position next year because I really want to build my private practice. They seemed “eager” to have me stay in some capacity, so I am looking at another position still in the district that is part-time.
I’m really enjoying my private consulting. I guess that’s where my heart is. I enjoy designing and running programs. I like working with families who are involved and are “choosing” to do this. Mostly, I love working with the wee-little ones because they make such tremendous progress, and it’s so fun to be a part of that.
Audra (Jr.) had a rough week. She’s an interesting little girl, I have to say. She is about as unique as they come. She has this incredible energy level, she’s boisterous, animated, and not a girly-girl. She’s not into fashion or the newest trends as some of the girls are beginning to be. She still loves Pokemon and Webkinz and wears sweats whenever she can and gets grass stains on her knees. Her best friend lives two doors down and they spend almost every waking minute together. If it weren’t for her, I’d be really worried about Audra. She does not fit in with the girls at church. She is never invited to hang out. Once every other week she goes to an activity with the girls at church her age, and she’s been feeling unsure of herself. I guess it all came out this last week. I think because she’s feeling a bit like a misfit, she tries to do things to get attention or find a way into the “group”, but it just ended up with her being dumb and getting her feelings hurt. I feel bad for her, but she’s a lot like I was and it brings back many memories. I didn’t have a “place” through junior high school. I wasn’t trendy. I liked strange, alternative music (following after older brothers for that). I didn’t fit in with the “Mormon” girls, but I’d moved to the area recently enough that I didn’t have any non-church friends. Those years were tough! It wasn’t until high school where I found others mistfits that we fit together that I felt I had a place, but those weren’t necessarily people with the best influence on me. I struggled for many years to find who I was, to be who I wanted to be but while being surrounded by good people. It took me serving a mission to really grasp the fact that I didn’t have to fit into a “group”. I could be just who I was and still hold on to my morals and ideals, and I could be perfectly happy without any group whatsoever if I needed to. I suppose that’s just maturity.
I just feel for my girl. I can see her struggling with the same issues I did. What she has that I never had was one good friend with strong morals who let me be who I wanted to be. Audra has that. I am so grateful for her friendship with Kyndall.
Have a good week!

Cat doesn’t fit in with the girls at church either. She’s 15 and that makes it even harder, I think. She’s very involved though. She’s a responsible kid who isn’t afraid to participate, so her teachers ask her to do stuff. Or maybe she volunteers, I don’t know.
She has a ton of friends at school but no close best friend. She’s been invited to about 4 graduation parties, which is pretty cool for a sophmore.
It’s harder for girls to make friends than boys. Boys just have to show off at something they’re good at and bingo, instant friends.
Comment by Susan M — June 10, 2007 @ 8:40 pm
I’m so happy for you about your private consulting! Please give Maggie a big hug from me. She is a wonderful girl. When I was a kid, I was invited to play sometimes, but I wasn’t treated very well. I got to the point where I didn’t care if anyone invited me over. I made my really close friends in high school too.
Love you!
Sarah
Comment by Sarah — June 12, 2007 @ 4:02 am
You are a great mom! Send Audra down any time to play we are always getting grass stain on our knees and dirt in our hair; no time to primp!
Comment by Stephanie — June 12, 2007 @ 5:25 am
I’m sorry for sweet little Audra, It is so hard to be a free spirit in the world of conformity. It’s awesome though as all of us “oddballs” ended up on the same street. (Hi Stephanie).
Comment by Kerry — June 12, 2007 @ 10:57 pm
Sweet Maggie will find her true self. She’s one of a kind and has the spunk and qualities that will make her stand out in the world. But it can be tough at times!
Love from GGAmy
Comment by Great Grandma Amy — June 12, 2007 @ 11:03 pm
Our little Audra has so many things going for her and we love her for her uniqueness. With a great family and the church, she will turn out fine. It’s natural for parents to worry though, just as we did about you. Look how you turned out. Hope that doesn’t scare you.
Miss you all. Give Mag a hug for us.
Love, Mom & Dad
Comment by mom — June 12, 2007 @ 11:16 pm
Over the weekend, we took our son out for ice cream at a locally owned ice cream shop. As we were parking, a large group of people were walking in. The shop is small, so we were able to see and hear everything that went on at their table of 8. One look at the table and it was obvious that there were 6 siblings, ranging from early 20s to teenagerhood. Two elderly adults also sat with them. Upon further observation, every one of the siblings had some sort of exceptionality. Listening to the adults, it became clear that they were Grandma and Grandpa. Now, are they raising these children? I don’t know. But, someone is. And someone has six beautiful children, very close in age, with varying exceptionalities. It really made me hang my head in shame over the times that I have complained about my frustrations with my one child on the spectrum. Perspective.
Comment by MelissaH — June 13, 2007 @ 9:56 pm
I think I’ll talk about me first.
Enough of that!
Keyndall must feel the same about Maggie, or they wouldn’t be best buds. You can’t fit a round peg into a square hole — right? What’s the point anyway? Hopefully Maggie can develop a good self-image, and not let the actions of others get her down. It’s hard to do.
Mike told us about your plans for the next school year and private practice. He is proud of you. You will do well.
xoxo
Comment by Maj — June 14, 2007 @ 10:38 pm
Good friends can really make a difference! I’m glad that she has that. Life can be so hard sometimes.
Comment by Tara Juedeman — June 16, 2007 @ 3:44 pm